If Only Freud Knew…
With the digital age coming into it’s own over the last decade, it seems that Freud’s theory of psychoanalysis may no longer work. At present, people want their information faster, and want faster solutions to their problems. Having to sit on a sofa and discuss the issues we face just doesn’t seem to cut it any more.
But is it possible to develop this theory for the new facebook and twitter generation (where mental health problems seem increasingly prevalent)? Well Linda Sapadin, Ph.D, has come up with a few tips for those of us who spend a lot of our time on the internet, and social networking sites, and I think they may be very valuable to a lot of people out there:
- Quit comparing yourself to the best. You don’t have to be the best to make a valuable, worthwhile contribution to the world.
- Don’t belittle yourself. Quit calling yourself derogatory names. Laugh good-naturedly at your mistakes, but don’t denigrate who you are and what you’re about.
- Avoid sitting on the sidelines, bemoaning your circumstances without taking any action to improve your lot in life.
- Even the best ideas are worthless unless you use your energy to execute them.
- When you’re overstressed and overworked, take a break. Rest. Relax. Enjoy. Be with optimistic people. Then, get back to work.
- Tolerate disappointment. There are days in which nothing works out well. This is a “bad day.” Don’t make it into a life position.
- Allow your interests to emerge in their own way. Don’t attempt to make them fit into the box you (or others) think they should fit into.
- Because a decision didn’t work out as expected doesn’t necessarily make it a bad decision. Reflect on what went wrong, however, before you move on to your next decision.
- Acknowledge what you experienced in your early years. But put your energy toward living in the present where making good decisions can truly enhance your life.
- Keep doing what you enjoy doing even if there’s no immediate reward to it.
- When you believe in yourself, it’s amazing what you can accomplish.
- Success is not an overnight happening. It’s the result of a consistent, driving energy that keeps you engaged, focused and moving forward.
While you may argue that simply reading this advice isn’t going to help you, especially not straight away, when the options are this, or sitting in a chair every week telling a therapist how you feel it seems far more valuable. Yes, it does take time to change the way we think and feel about life, and events. However, it doesn’t have to take too much time, and it can start with something as simple as saying one of these a day until you believe it.
Time seems to be far more precious now than it was when Freud was writing. People do want to spend it wisely, which has resulted in more people taking time off work to go on holidays, or studying more during their degree. But, as Dr Sapadin states, a few months of therapy, or even long term therapy, can be extremely rewarding in the long run. And while these 12 tips do put you on the starting line, therapy (or other long term methods of treatment) will push you to the finish line and beyond.
So, my advise to you is to ask yourself; do I want to solve this quickly, or do I want to solve it effectively? I believe the latter is more likely to give you the long term outcome that you are looking for. But definitely use these 12 tips as a starter to get you through the short term.
Written by Philippa Berry
Published on: 23rd March 2013